The Sound of the Soul
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Thursday, November 27, 2008
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Thankful
I just want to say that I am thankful for all the people in my life that can help me when I need it most. It means the world to me and I try to do my best to give back. I try to do all I can for my friends when they need me and I hope that if I have their back they will have mine. I have friends that live across the world that check on me.. how great is that? I hope that some day I will get to go and visit them.. especially because they are related to my lil man!! :)
I don't have much to say as I am tired and not feeling well.. I just wanted to say how thankful I am that I have my family and friends.. and the most of all.. a JOB!! So many people are struggling to make it these days and I have been very lucky with my line of work and being able to be as far as I am in the working world. Today I got good news.. MY BOSS IS OPENING A CLASSROOM OF 7-10 YEAR OLDS AND I GET TO TEACH IT!! I am super super excited. It makes me realize that there was a reason I didn't take the job at the public school last year! I love my job and working with any age kid.. but what I really LOVE doing is working with the younger kids!! So, I am super-duper thankful for that!!! I hope it all works out. It may take two weeks to open the class or 2 months, but I know that it's in the works... and that's important to me!!! :)
I don't have much to say as I am tired and not feeling well.. I just wanted to say how thankful I am that I have my family and friends.. and the most of all.. a JOB!! So many people are struggling to make it these days and I have been very lucky with my line of work and being able to be as far as I am in the working world. Today I got good news.. MY BOSS IS OPENING A CLASSROOM OF 7-10 YEAR OLDS AND I GET TO TEACH IT!! I am super super excited. It makes me realize that there was a reason I didn't take the job at the public school last year! I love my job and working with any age kid.. but what I really LOVE doing is working with the younger kids!! So, I am super-duper thankful for that!!! I hope it all works out. It may take two weeks to open the class or 2 months, but I know that it's in the works... and that's important to me!!! :)
Thursday, November 20, 2008
AMAZED AT THE COURT SYSTEM
So, had court today. I THOUGHT (ha ha) I might get somewhere today. I was told I was going to be getting the money that biodad owes me from when he was in jail. He owed me quite a bit, so I was looking forward to this money to pay off some bills, and of course for Christmas(which I am not really sure how I'm going to pay for at this point!). I got to court, and bio dad didn't show up. I talked to my lawyer, he said we can still put the order in to get the money turned over to me. I was like cool.. I will still get my check.. WRONG!!
John, my lawyer, comes over to me while he's writing out the check and says.. they write the check to me and then you get it from my office. I said, "okay... so I don't get it today?" He says, "no, but in a couple of days." I was like.. okay that still works. We go in front of judge and we get the order for the check approved. As we are walking out John says, "They said the check might take 3 days, it may take 6 weeks." I was like, "what??!!" I was so close to tears I left. I am so counting on that money.
I DON'T GET IT... He went to jail on Oct. 2, He paid the money shortly after, as far as I know. I was told I would get the money. I never saw it.. called the lawyer, and he said, "no, you'll have it on Nov. 20." Then I get there today and they are going to tell me.. 6 WEEKS!! How do they expect people to pay their bills.. I mean freakin' A... what in the world did he get sent to jail for?? I still have no money and he is out wandering doing whatever he wants.. including NOT picking up our child for visitation... which of course couldn't be discussed because he didn't show up... and do you think he gets a consequence for not showing... Nooooooooooooo, of course not!!! They will give him.. ANOTHER chance to show on Dec. 11. Ugh!
Then, I leave court, and since Bio Dad wasn't there I figured I would call and try to attempt to set up Thanksgiving visitation. It is Bio-Dad's year to have B for Thanksgiving. I called and left a message asking if he would like him Wednesday night or Thursday morning. His response, "I'M NOT PICKING HIM UP FOR THE HOLIDAYS..." B's birthday is Dec. 24.... so I said, "You are not even going to get him on his birthday at 6pm (it is also his year to have him on Christmas Day).... " He says, "I told you I am only available a couple of hours a week.. did you think I was kidding????"..... I told him off. I told him he is just hurting B.. I asked if he was going to tell B that he wasn't going to come..... his response, "I don't have to explain anything to him or you!!"
I'm so frustrated.. sometimes I wonder why I ever went to court.. but God help me.. I WILL NEVER LET HIM GET AWAY WITH NOT PAYING FOR ANOTHER CHILD!! I've spent so much money on lawyers at this point.....He can walk away.. he can be gone for the next 8 years.. and I may wait until right before B's 18th birthday to ever go back to court again.. . but so help me .. HE WILL PAY!!
Okay.. so I vented a bit here.. but it felt good...... I'm going to go before you all get bored!!!
John, my lawyer, comes over to me while he's writing out the check and says.. they write the check to me and then you get it from my office. I said, "okay... so I don't get it today?" He says, "no, but in a couple of days." I was like.. okay that still works. We go in front of judge and we get the order for the check approved. As we are walking out John says, "They said the check might take 3 days, it may take 6 weeks." I was like, "what??!!" I was so close to tears I left. I am so counting on that money.
I DON'T GET IT... He went to jail on Oct. 2, He paid the money shortly after, as far as I know. I was told I would get the money. I never saw it.. called the lawyer, and he said, "no, you'll have it on Nov. 20." Then I get there today and they are going to tell me.. 6 WEEKS!! How do they expect people to pay their bills.. I mean freakin' A... what in the world did he get sent to jail for?? I still have no money and he is out wandering doing whatever he wants.. including NOT picking up our child for visitation... which of course couldn't be discussed because he didn't show up... and do you think he gets a consequence for not showing... Nooooooooooooo, of course not!!! They will give him.. ANOTHER chance to show on Dec. 11. Ugh!
Then, I leave court, and since Bio Dad wasn't there I figured I would call and try to attempt to set up Thanksgiving visitation. It is Bio-Dad's year to have B for Thanksgiving. I called and left a message asking if he would like him Wednesday night or Thursday morning. His response, "I'M NOT PICKING HIM UP FOR THE HOLIDAYS..." B's birthday is Dec. 24.... so I said, "You are not even going to get him on his birthday at 6pm (it is also his year to have him on Christmas Day).... " He says, "I told you I am only available a couple of hours a week.. did you think I was kidding????"..... I told him off. I told him he is just hurting B.. I asked if he was going to tell B that he wasn't going to come..... his response, "I don't have to explain anything to him or you!!"
I'm so frustrated.. sometimes I wonder why I ever went to court.. but God help me.. I WILL NEVER LET HIM GET AWAY WITH NOT PAYING FOR ANOTHER CHILD!! I've spent so much money on lawyers at this point.....He can walk away.. he can be gone for the next 8 years.. and I may wait until right before B's 18th birthday to ever go back to court again.. . but so help me .. HE WILL PAY!!
Okay.. so I vented a bit here.. but it felt good...... I'm going to go before you all get bored!!!
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Don't know what to title this...
Hello! I am doing well.. Just wanted to let everyone know! :).. I don't have much to report! I am busy with the kids and work! I wish I had some great words of wisdom, but I do not!!
I go back to court on Thursday to TRY to settle the custody issues, but I have a feeling that nothing will get done.. It is VERY frustrating!! ugh!!
I can't wait to head downtown this year. We didn't get to go last year thanks to a near blizzard that almost came through. We go to Chicago to see the lights and Christmas Trees as well as the windows at Macy's. We have lunch and the kids get to see some more of the city!! It's great!!
Have to get the boys boots tonight... there is snow (just a little) but there is snow and they are told that they can't go on the playground or grass until they have boots. I guess it is time.. it is the middle of NOVEMBER!! :) .. I have checked their winter coats and snow pants.. but totally forgot about boots!! DUH!! :)
Oh well.. Off to work again!!..
I go back to court on Thursday to TRY to settle the custody issues, but I have a feeling that nothing will get done.. It is VERY frustrating!! ugh!!
I can't wait to head downtown this year. We didn't get to go last year thanks to a near blizzard that almost came through. We go to Chicago to see the lights and Christmas Trees as well as the windows at Macy's. We have lunch and the kids get to see some more of the city!! It's great!!
Have to get the boys boots tonight... there is snow (just a little) but there is snow and they are told that they can't go on the playground or grass until they have boots. I guess it is time.. it is the middle of NOVEMBER!! :) .. I have checked their winter coats and snow pants.. but totally forgot about boots!! DUH!! :)
Oh well.. Off to work again!!..
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Back at Home
Went to Florida for the last 5 days. It was beautiful weather. I come home.. and blah! I want to go back.. It is gorgeous out there. . people thought we were crazy because we had shorts on.. The funny thing is, it was 74 degrees there!! They said they were cold... hah! :)
We had an excellent time with the familiy and it was a lot of fun! I got to see my Grandma and Grandpa who I love dearly and that was probably the most favorite part of my trip!.. . .
The funniest even was when C fell in the ocean because he got dizzy from looking at the waves... HE WAS FULLY CLOTHED!! :) It was great!! I would post a pic but the husband is using my computer right now!! ugh!! I will post pics soon here and/or on my facebook. Both boys experience their first upside down roller coaster!!
Sadly, while I was in Florida, my Grandmother (my father's mother) that lives here in Chicago passed away. She was diagnosed with liver cancer not too long ago (September). It was quick, but I know she is out of pain. Her funeral was Monday and I really struggled to decide if I should have stayed in Florida or if we should come home for the funeral. After discussing it with R, we decided we would stay in Florida (my mom and dad were okay with us staying there. . actually told us to stay). We were there to visit my other grandparents and I thought it was important to spend the little time we did have with them and what a better way to help celebrate my grandma's life by spending it with my other one!! I know that is what my Grandma would have been okay with.
I did not tell the boys until we came home. B was not very happy with me that I waited to tell him, but I told him I didn't want him to worry or be sad while we were gone. I told him we would go visit Great-Grandma's grave and he could say 'good-bye' there. He cried for a little while and is still sad, and stated, "It's just not fair." I read somewhere once that I child does not fully understand the meaning of death until they are 9 or 10. Well, that's how he is, so I think he really gets it. He has only experienced one other death and that was my best friend's father, and I don't think he fully comprehended that when he was only 5. Unfortunately, that death occured when we went to Disney World the first time! C handled it okay. He had some tears, but he has only met my Grandma once or twice. He is often at his mom's when we saw her on the holidays. He was supportive of B and me and he is such a great kid with a big heart! Both of the kids are! I'm so thankful for them!
As upset as they can get me to be... they can always put a smile on my face!
I love you Grandma...and you will always have a place in my heart!!! XOXO
We had an excellent time with the familiy and it was a lot of fun! I got to see my Grandma and Grandpa who I love dearly and that was probably the most favorite part of my trip!.. . .
The funniest even was when C fell in the ocean because he got dizzy from looking at the waves... HE WAS FULLY CLOTHED!! :) It was great!! I would post a pic but the husband is using my computer right now!! ugh!! I will post pics soon here and/or on my facebook. Both boys experience their first upside down roller coaster!!
Sadly, while I was in Florida, my Grandmother (my father's mother) that lives here in Chicago passed away. She was diagnosed with liver cancer not too long ago (September). It was quick, but I know she is out of pain. Her funeral was Monday and I really struggled to decide if I should have stayed in Florida or if we should come home for the funeral. After discussing it with R, we decided we would stay in Florida (my mom and dad were okay with us staying there. . actually told us to stay). We were there to visit my other grandparents and I thought it was important to spend the little time we did have with them and what a better way to help celebrate my grandma's life by spending it with my other one!! I know that is what my Grandma would have been okay with.
I did not tell the boys until we came home. B was not very happy with me that I waited to tell him, but I told him I didn't want him to worry or be sad while we were gone. I told him we would go visit Great-Grandma's grave and he could say 'good-bye' there. He cried for a little while and is still sad, and stated, "It's just not fair." I read somewhere once that I child does not fully understand the meaning of death until they are 9 or 10. Well, that's how he is, so I think he really gets it. He has only experienced one other death and that was my best friend's father, and I don't think he fully comprehended that when he was only 5. Unfortunately, that death occured when we went to Disney World the first time! C handled it okay. He had some tears, but he has only met my Grandma once or twice. He is often at his mom's when we saw her on the holidays. He was supportive of B and me and he is such a great kid with a big heart! Both of the kids are! I'm so thankful for them!
As upset as they can get me to be... they can always put a smile on my face!
I love you Grandma...and you will always have a place in my heart!!! XOXO
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
T-I-GG-ER
I love Tigger!! He is my favorite character!! I hope I get to see him this weekend! We take off for our vacation tomorrow! It is exciting!! Cade's first time on an Airplane, Our first trip on a plane as a family!! I can't wait! I am so super excited.. ... .
I'm tired of the election stuff.. I will say that.. I am very excited to see who wins either late tonight or tomorrow morning. One of my best friends, Kara, go to go to the Obama Rally tonight here in Chicago!! I am a bit jealous! It would be really cool to be there.. you know.. historical event and all.. even if he did lose.. I HOPE he doesn't... I know I know Matt.. Not who you want :) ....
I wish I had more wonderful things to report, but at this point.. I am just so excited about going and the fact that bio-dad has interfered is even better!! Yea!! Anywho.. If I don't get to update from my phone.... I will update when I get home!! Hope you all have a great weekend!
I'm tired of the election stuff.. I will say that.. I am very excited to see who wins either late tonight or tomorrow morning. One of my best friends, Kara, go to go to the Obama Rally tonight here in Chicago!! I am a bit jealous! It would be really cool to be there.. you know.. historical event and all.. even if he did lose.. I HOPE he doesn't... I know I know Matt.. Not who you want :) ....
I wish I had more wonderful things to report, but at this point.. I am just so excited about going and the fact that bio-dad has interfered is even better!! Yea!! Anywho.. If I don't get to update from my phone.... I will update when I get home!! Hope you all have a great weekend!
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